MAD MURPHY – Getting It All Out!!!

GETTING IT ALL OUT!!!

I have been accused of a LOT of things: a stalker, a liar, a destroyer, a cheater, a bully, and even a rapist, but the one thing that’s true about me is that I get mad.

Y’DONT’ SAY!!!

I know… SHOCKER!

I blow up all the time, and I blow up quickly, and for the longest time – I was indoctrinated by today’s “everything’s sunshine and rainbows” society that expressing your negative emotions along with your positive emotions was a bad thing.

And then I realized something…

When the FUCK did I give two shits about what this “candy coated – everyone’s gotta be my neighbor – love you kiss kiss – Tumblr” generation thinks? Nine times out of ten, they have been wrong about the bigger picture, because they only have the mental capacity to focus on their world, and not how it affects the rest of the real world, because… let’s face it – why deal with the real world? That shit’s scary!

Well sunshine, I have some bad news for you.

In the real world, there is anger, and bitterness, and resentment, and jealousy, and selfishness, and stress and you need to learn how to deal with all of that shit if you’re going to survive. If you bottle all of that shit up, it’s going to kill you – and I mean that quite literally. There are MANY ways that containing all of your negative emotions and locking them away can affect your health. Stress can lead to heart attacks and ulcers, burst blood vessels, strokes, anything where PRESSURE is involved.

Case in point, when I was in 6 or 7th grade, my dad had a cardiac arrest – not quite a heart attack, but close enough to put him in the hospital. He was burning the midnight oil with his job, still drinking, and the added pressure of his home life and his work life finally took its toll. He collapsed while as work and was quickly rushed to the hospital. He survived the ordeal a little wiser – you’re not 18 anymore, you can’t put your body through all of that. And even though his hospital trip was more physical than mental, the mental strain he put on himself during that time of his life certainly did not help the situation.

So, what am I saying?

GET IT OFF YOUR FUCKING CHEST!

Don’t bottle that shit up. Picture it like this. Your emotions and mental capacity are like soda in a bottle. Every time you experience an event that upsets you or angers you, that bottle gets shaken up a bit. The pressure inside that bottle is going to build and build and build, and when you finally do open it – you end up with a lap full of Coca-Cola. Now, what’s the smart thing to do? When you twist that cap to finally open it, and you see those bubbles start to rise, you quickly tighten that cap back up, and then let the air out slowly. Well that would be fantastic if we could do that with our stress, but most of the time, once you’re on the warpath, you can’t stop it – it’s like trying to put toothpaste BACK inside the tube.

I’ve always been like this – When something pissed me off, I go off on it. And if that scares you, or intimidates you, don’t be. I would RATHER scream and shout at you for five minutes, then bottle that all up and then end up on the 11 O’Clock news for first degree murder. I let it out NOT to scare you, no… if I wanted to scare you, I would be calm and quiet. No, no no no… I scream and yell just to get it out of my system, and that level of anger goes back down, and in five minutes I’m fine again. I’m stress free. I’m back to being that funny guy who’s got a great story to tell you. I’m that guy you want to game with.Some people look at me releasing my anger publicly as a bad thing, and it’s not. It’s just not “acceptable” in today’s “My Little Pony” world, and y’know what I have to say about that? I’ve never liked My Little Pony, so Princess Celestia can suck my fat cock.

This is NOT about what society wants, it’s about what you need, and sometimes, you just have to get that shit off of your chest or you are going to have an emotional Mount Saint Helens moment and then everyone’s gonna be pissed at you for blowing up, when all you needed to do in the long run is just let it out every time something pisses you off in small short bursts.

Here’s another example. I have a friend who is going through an Everest-Sized amount of stuff right now, and the emotions associated with this stuff are mixed. There is some happy stuff, there is some depressing stuff and there is some scary stuff – and all of these events are conflicting their psyche, so they are now experiencing what I call “an emotional short circuit”. They usually just keep all of their negative emotions and opinions bottled up, so now, when they are expected to express their emotions, it’s just all spouting out in all sorts of different directions – they’ll blow up on friends at the drop of a hat, they’ll have a moment where they’ll curl up in bed and sob, and it’s beginning to take its toll on my friend.

Just let it out, if you need to vent, then vent.

“But that’s just not my thing to just rant and rave like you do.”

I don’t give a shit if it’s your thing or not, it’s something you NEED to do, or you’ll end up in the morgue before the end of 2016. We had a long talk about even though it may or may not be their thing, it’s something that NEEDS to happen, simply for their own health.

And then something else happened that confuses me, they apologized for ranting.

Wait what? You’re apologizing for needing to talk, me accepting that, then you talking and just venting to someone who’s willing to listen and be there for you when you just need a shoulder to lean on. So you are apologizing for needing a friend, or for having a problem you just need vent about? I never understood that and it happens all the time. Why do we ask “Hey, mind if I vent, I need to talk to someone.” and then apologize for doing exactly what you asked if it was ok for you to do that. It goes against the nature of asking in the first place. Y’know I could see if you were just talking to someone and then busted out in a “Y’KNOW WHAT I FUCKING HATE…” rant THEN you apologized. The listener was unprepared, and had no idea you were going to just fly over the barn. But you already asked, you already got the green light to go nuts like there’s bugs on your butts, and still… with the apology.

I totally get that you’re being polite and considerate, and you don’t want to impose on your friend… but you already asked if you could impose, and they said it was alright, so what are we doing here? But besides that, venting your frustrations is generally a GOOD thing, so that you don’t blow up in a more severe fashion later on.

I want you to think about this… all those gun men that shot up places like Sandy Hook, Columbine, San Bernadino, Charleston… if someone would have let them vent their frustrations verbally, let them get it all out of their system… would we be mentioning places like Sandy Hook, Columbine, San Bernadino and Charleston in hushed tones?

Being Angry is NOT a bad thing. Being Frustrated is NOT a bad thing. Being Sad, Jealous, Covetous, Carnal are ALL NOT BAD… ACTING UPON THEM IS. Let me rephrase, Acting upon them non-productively is a bad thing. Like say you’re angry with your job. Your boss is a fuck face and your coworkers are retards. Instead of actively starting a job search and polishing your resume, instead of taking a few new courses to better your skill set so that you can be more marketable, instead of venting your frustrations calmly to Human Resources, you go home and you beat the shit out of your girlfriend or wife.

THAT’S WHEN BEING ANGRY IS BAD.

But the emotion, the feeling, the raw fire that burns within you that tends to explode in short bursts of fury is NOT a bad thing. There is NOTHING wrong with being angry. Let me say that again so it’ll sink in: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING ANGRY. It’s perfectly natural to get mad. And honestly, I shy away from people who NEVER get mad. THAT’S unnatural. In fact, I would go as far as say that anyone who never experiences every emotion on a daily basis, or at least generally frequent scares me a little. It’s like talking to Data from Star Trek – You know they are sentient, but there’s something missing that you just can’t put your finger on. And then it hits you – OH YEAH, This person has no happy button, well we’re gonna just cut this conversation short and move on.

You should NEVER be afraid of your emotions, they’re like real-world superpowers, and you need to let ALL of them live and breathe and do amazing things if you just let them do their job, which, in turn, will allow you to get stronger as a person.

If any of you have seen “Inside Out”, then you’ll know exactly what I mean, if you haven’t… SPOILER ALERT. Joy didn’t want Sadness to do her job, because she thought Riley was supposed to be happy ALL the time, but then she realized that Riley need to feel EVERYTHING and every emotion has its purpose. Sadness was needed to deal with sad events so that she COULD be happy, and then in turn allow Joy to do her job. And then you saw at the end of the movie, that memories didn’t just have to be a single emotion, they could be combinations, and sometimes a different core memory would make for a more emotionally strong and deeper Riley so more interesting islands would form, like xxx and xxx. NEVER bottle anything up, never hold back, never be afraid to be who you are – there’s only one of you – and we want to see and know just who you are.